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----------------------PROTOCOLS OF A LIFESTYLE SUBMISSIVE----------------------- In my years of being a lifestyle Domme, I’ve found that a large majority of submissive men don’t actually know what being in a dynamic involves. To an extent, I understand it: all they’ve been exposed to is glossy images from photo shoots and clips of sessions with ProDommes, as well as a lot of unrealistic erotica. Most seem under the impression that I live my life covered head to toe with latex or leather, and my only hobbies are luring helpless men into my trap and making them my mindless drone subs. They think every moment is high protocol, and when you become an owned sub, you’re signing up for a lifetime of constant degradation and no warmth. I’m here to set the record straight. It’s not constant degradation, just most of the time. That was a joke. Sorta. To help people get an idea of what a live-in lifestyle sub actually gets up to, I’ve decided to run through all the protocols my sub (they/them) has with me, and what a typical day may look like for them. Keep in mind that due to the COVID-19 pandemic, my sub has been at home, and so has ample time to perform whatever tasks I may desire. If they were still working, then there would obviously be far more compromise in our protocols. It is also important to note that this is how I enjoy my dynamic- a different Dominant may prefer something entirely different, and that is absolutely valid. My sub and I often wake up at the same time, and depending on my mood, I may allow them to touch themselves, or touch me until I am satisfied. But the first official protocol they have is to make me tea and bring me something to eat. Almost always in bed, but sometimes I feel better getting a start on my day at the kitchen table. If I am working, they then drive me to my place of work, and then return for the day. If I do not work that day, I often demand small tasks throughout the day from them that are largely mundane. They almost always make me my tea (unless they’re too busy, and I felt like getting up). I will often ask them to perform any chores I feel need to be done that day. I may also demand their oral services, or a massage, but for the most part, we do our own things during the day. If I am working, their day is sometimes structured by me beforehand with a loose agenda/task list to complete. Often these include making sure they eat, work out, or do any chores I deem necessary. Sometimes these tasks will also be sexual in nature, if I feel like teasing them from afar. When we eat at our house, my sub always serves me my meal on their knees, while I take the first bite. If I don’t like what they’ve cooked (which has only happened twice), they will make something else, or put in a substitution for me. Depending on whether or not I feel like it, they may have additional protocols around food. They may have to eat a certain amount, or eat it from the dog bowl, or have to track their caloric intake on an app to ensure they’re getting enough nutrients as they can forget to eat sometimes. They may be required to ask permission to eat certain foods, or drink certain beverages, especially if they are intoxicating. If we are out at a restaurant (which we don’t do anymore, thanks COVID), I decide what they eat, and whether or not they are allowed any alcohol. If I was at work that day, they are also required to pick me up if they can and drive me home. Once we are home, they will take my coat and welcome me back to help me wind down from my day. From there, they usually either make food, or we order food in. I don’t tend to have a lot of down time when I’m working, so from eating, it’s almost straight to bed. My sub is required to cuddle and help soothe me as I sleep. Often they will go to sleep with me, but sometimes they stay up later to play video games with their friends. As I’m sure you noticed, I didn’t mention much about our kinky hot sex. The reality is that although we definitely enjoy an active sex life, intense scenes are simply not an every day occurrence, in the same way sex is not an every day occurrence for many couples. Not every moment of our time together is spent in a high protocol scene, most of it is just spent doing our own thing on the internet, or cuddling, or going for drives. Even in those moments, I am still the Dominant, and they are still my bitch, but to most outside observers, we would look like any other couple. Because at the end of the day, the core of our dynamic is how we care for one another in our own ways